When Older Siblings aren't Thrilled about Baby!
When a new baby arrives, many older siblings have some new feelings to sort through....
Some are 100% in love and want to be your super helper. Others are feeling like their space is being encroached upon, and may pretend that baby doesn’t exist! Either way, the adjustment period can be tough as you add a new baby to your family.
If you’re worried about your older child(ren) and how they may cooperate during your newborn session, here are some words of ENCOURAGEMENT and advice:
#1 Put Them in the Spotlight!
Older siblings may already feel like everything has been about the new baby recently, so let’s shift the focus to them for their part in the newborn session. Instead of saying, “Can you take a picture with your new baby?”, try, “Can you show baby how to take a picture? Your’e so good at taking pictures!”. You will also notice that I will give siblings lots of attention at the beginning of the session to make them feel special.
#2 Encourage Snuggling
Any photo session can already be a bit overwhelming for toddlers. We will always start with the entire family first, so this will give plenty of opportunity for loving up on your toddler as well as the new baby. Encouraging interaction with baby, such as tickling their feet or kissing their head can be a great way to make them feel involved. These little candids are my favorites when looking through newborn session galleries.
#3 Schedule Wisely
Timing can make a big difference. Schedule the session at a time when your older child is usually well-rested and in a good mood. For many children, this might be in the morning, which is why I schedule 95% of my newborns in the AM. A tired, hungry, or overstimulated child is less likely to cooperate, making the session more challenging for everyone.
#4 Go with Their Flow
Trying to force an unwilling toddler never works out too well (those little stinkers are strong willed!) If they are showing signs they do not want to participate, it’s important not to force it. Instead, encourage participation by other means (such as an incentive) OR just give them the space to think it is THEIR idea to participate. Newborn sessions can definitely require some patience when younger siblings are involved, so please don’t worry about hurrying things along unnaturally. The calmer everyone remains, the more likely we will have some success.
If you’re nervous about your toddlers reaction to their role during your newborn session, please feel free to reach out! I would love to brainstorm more ideas with you and formulate a plan with which everyone is comfortable.